The NaBloPoMo prompt asked a very simple question: Do you do more for yourself or others. While there is no right or wrong answer, for me, I think a balance of each is the correct. I enjoy helping people and that is why I chose nursing as my profession. Answering a question, teaching or even wiping a tear from a frightened patient’s eye is part of me helping someone. I work with many elderly patients and to assist them not only lessens their anxiety but also gives me a satisfaction.
Helping my family is important but we all know the boundaries. They have their lives and I have mine. We love getting together and even helping one another. I would never interfere with their lives nor buy them everything they want or need. As my children have reached adulthood we have a great relationship and balance.
I have always had difficulty with rewarding myself. Through the past few years I have gotten better about thinking of ways to do this. I schedule time to do things like a spa day once a year, planning a vacation once a year. I may also do simple things like make time for a run or go take some photographs. I book time in my schedule to include some time for me to have fun as well as work.
Balance for me is achieved by doing things for me as well as others. Part of what makes me tick is helping others as well as me. If I only thought of myself I feel it would be selfish and granted I would have more time but some of the most important joy of my life would be gone.